Hello friends!
I have finally started this site on a February 14, 2021 – Valentine’s Day.
Still in a middle of a Covid pandemic, but I got my 2nd Pfizer vaccine on that Valentine’s Day morning and I am very excited what 2021 will bring on!
As some of you know and some of you have experienced, I love to “match” people. As I know how not easy it is to meet someone, and even after you meet someone – how not easy it is to TRUST this new person.
It is especially hard after the brutal divorce – when your dreams for the future seem to be crashed forever. I have been there. Twice…
So YES this site is not ONLY for singles, but for all who might have a little more space for some extra Romance and Happiness! 🙂
Unless someone will prove to me that people who are in a relationship never miss those two?
I love to get together with my friends and meet new friends, listen and learn (new and old) and help them to be HAPPY or happier… and this is what this website will be all about!
The nice thing is – you don’t have to be a part of any Social Media to visit any of the content here! 🙂
I am sure I am not the only one who is thinking WHY so many marriages, and the long years relationships don’t stand the time and why people who are at the start seem to LOVE each other – end up not only becoming strangers, but sometimes even enemies…
I like to think that the reason is – us humans somehow have to pay the Universe’s practical joke on how we are divided on different groups, by race, religion, political parties, even locations …
And that is what we use to look for our life partners, soulmates , friends, lovers…
I will try to explain what I mean.
In the animal world – there is a way the same species can recognize their own..
In biology, a species is the basic unit of classification and a taxonomic rank of an organism, as well as a unit of biodiversity. A species is often defined as the largest group of organisms in which any two individuals of the appropriate sexes or mating types can produce fertile offspring, typically by sexual reproduction. Other ways of defining species include their karyotype, DNA sequence, morphology, BEHAVIOUR or ecological niche. The total number of species is estimated to be around 8 million! And 99% of the time – they find their OWN to spend the seconds or years together – whatever they entitled to live on this Earth. The smarter ones even know which species are ok to have around, and which ones to run away from…
On the other hand – us humans – the only difference we know and most time use to look for mates – is the color of our skin, hair color, and shape of our eyes or cheekbones… oh yeah – we also use religion and (surprise!) political party sides… Soon we can add to the first dates question: “Do you believe in vaccination? Do you wear a mask in public?” 🙂
And in my opinion – THESE are not what we should use as our search criteria … And NO, I am NOT trying to say that we humans are THE SAME despite of our skin color, religion or political party. It is just how we have been divided from each other for centuries.
But in my opinion, based on my observations, we have “different species” within these groups…
Am I the only one who thinks this way? Must be?
As I hear again and again: “…By the power vested in me by the State of XX, I now pronounce you husband and wife dear crocodile and giraffe (wolf and chicken… cat and mouse … monkey and turkey… you name it…)!
And if you miss your species category by lots… guess what – the honeymoon will be coming to the end pretty soon …
And then will come the reality… And then we hear: ” I CAN NOT believe she did that!”, “I CAN NOT believe he said this!”…
All these Dr. Phil’s stories on how the guy had betrayed his wife, or the wife runs away leaving the kids behind… Everyone is shocked and in disbelief! But do you blame the cat for eating the mouse? Do you blame the parasites bird cuckoo for laying her egg in someone’s nest? No. We just say – it is what it is – it is just that kind and it is expected.
May be that is why it takes us humans 2-5 times till we get wiser and learn on our own mistakes and realize: “… it wasn’t me.. I was just with the different species in a past… ” and finally learn how to find our OWN TYPE.
Do I have a solution to what I think is a problem? No…
But knowing and recognizing a problem is sometimes 50% of the answer. Or at least that is what I hope…
The glass is not full… BUT it is not EMPTY…
I am on a mission of finding a way to recognize and categorize our human groups (here is my 20+ years Data Analyst experience talking 🙂 ) – so we have a better chance to live happily ever after, despites the past statistic!
I am looking for the answer to my own question:
Is finding a soulmate equal to finding the one from your own ‘species’ group? I think it is. Why? Because the way I found mine! 🙂
And hopefully sooner than later, more of us can say “Hello Romance!” to the Romance with the happy ending!
I will share my thoughts about dating and some stories about my own past and current relationships, as I believe that it might help to improve those dating/relationship skills to say the least 😉
We all are the same and we all are so different… It is here and it is across the Globe. Let the glass be always half FULL!
Cheers!
- Dance Like No One’s Watching.
- Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt.
- Sing Like No One’s Listening.
- Live like it’s Heaven on Earth.
But of course – the content of this site will not be all.
I have a team of friends who will be helping me on helping you… 🙂
More to come…
With LOVE!
Zhanna
PS… yes – it will not be perfect… and yes you might find typos and misspelled words 🙂 if you do – just let me know – you all know where to find me 😉
